Thursday, December 22, 2011
WHY ARE SOME BLACK MEN OPTING OUT ON DATING BLACK WOMEN ENTIRELY?
Seems here lately (in the multimedia realm, facebook, TV, family, friends, party discussions, etc.) there has been talk about giving up on black women by black men of all age groups. What bothers me the most is, it's been a popular statement amongst the younger generation of black men who are barely old enough to drive. Why is this? What happened? Can this growing opinion be curtailed? If so, where do we begin? Could this spiral into another phase (such as The Willie Lynch Doctrine, Social Inequality, Crack Cocaine, Illegal Weapons Access and Capitalism) continuing the demise of African American descendants of the slave trade? If you feel this subject affects you and yours or just merely want to comment PLEASE DO BY CLICKING ON COMMENTS, I would definitely like to know your thoughts on the matter and or solutions....
Subscribe to:
Post Comments (Atom)
Being a black woman in her 40's, this bothered me quite a bit when I was a younger woman. Also, being a sista who is rich with color, I noticed that Latina, Asian, and white women held more allure with my black brothers.
ReplyDeleteAs I got older and the available pool of eligible black men shrank with each passing year, this angered me. It has been a wonderful journey releasing the anger, releasing the feeling that it had something to do with me. In most cases it was their inherited societal and personal esteem issue all along.
Today, realizing that finding a quality black man around my age is very challenging, I and many other sista's have opened our minds to expanding our options for dating. Though a black man may be our first choice, for various reason's this is not always a realistic option. Finding a good man is the number one priority. Perhaps this is somewhat true for my black brotha's as well.
Additionally, we the older generation of all colors MUST begin teaching the younger ones what it means to be a man, and what it means to be a woman. How to relate successfully to the other, how to communicate with them and how to treat them with respect. What does sexy really look like? How do you find the path to love, not lust? Where does the creator fit into the daily joy and love of our relationships? What do you mean by the woman is the temple and the man is the prayer? Until these teachings happen, the rift between men and women will widen within all of humanity.
In my opinion the question you have raised is partially an epidemic of self hatred, partially an outgrowth of the Willie Lynch proclamations, partially an issue with finding women of substance, and partially a reality of living in a world where (especially with the younger folk) color matters less and less.
As humanity advances, it is extremely important that we work on matter's such as greed, aggression, low morals, and the enormous injustice of lies we have been born into and force fed by the 1%. In my humble opinion, the questions facing us as the souls of humanity have surpassed the matter of skin color. If we can no longer rely on Mother Earth to sustain us because we have trashed her so badly, the color of our bodily fluids will likely become the most important colors we monitor in our lives!
Put down that remote control and turn off Twitter/Facebook. Sit down and talk to your children about what is real. All of these illusions, particularly with what it means to have 'status' in America are lies.
In seeking and teaching the truth to our kids, perhaps the next generation of Black men and women, will celebrate the wonder of what our shared history means. Admire and respect the unique beauty of being a descendant of the Nubian's. Love everyone, but most of all love ourselves.